By: Dianne Ellis, The HeartMind Coach
So often we know there's something not quite right in our life. We know that somewhere along the line we stepped off our heart's path to happiness and gave up our creative aspirations, just to please others -- family, friends,society. But what about you? By 'you' I mean the fulfilled you. Remember, igniting your Spirit Artisan in order to live and create your balanced life true to your core desires, is your birthright.
HINT: You'll know you've tapped into your core desires only if it benefits you AND those around you (your community either locally or internationally).
Being of service and connecting to others is key to being happy and YOU have to be happy first before you can truly be there for others. Like airplane safety rules dictate, put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you pass it to the person next to you. But remember, happiness only begins when the real you shows up! So, how do you even begin to find the real you? One of the first steps is to spot the area of your life that creates no pleasure, is in desperate need of resuscitation or simply non-existent.
The following excerpt is from an article by Pete Moseley. It touches on one of the tools that I use for my creativity coaching clients. This exercise inspires me so much, I had to share it with you! It's also a great life maintenance tool --- you can use it over and over again. It's the gift that keeps on giving!
CAUTION: Please read and use the following exercise only if you desire to increase creativity and satisfaction in your life.
The Human Givens
by Pete Moseley
Wheels have been used as coaching tools and aids to constructive thinking for millennia - they date back to early Buddhist thinking - perhaps earlier. A Google image search for' wheel of life' will find lots of very beautiful examples -and some more modern derivations. This variant - the Human Givens, is based on the notion that we need to have balance in our lives in a number of key areas. If that balance is not there, we get fed up. Or anxious. Or depressed. That's not good. This exercise reveals areas where we are more, or less, satisfied with our lives - and therefore gives us a golden opportunity to re-balance.
The basic assumptions of the Human Givens approach are that humans have evolved innate physical and emotional needs called ‘human givens’. Human beings instinctively seek to meet these needs in their environment. When a person’s innate needs are met in the environment, he or she will flourish. When these needs are not met in a balanced way, distress can result. The focus of the exercise is the discovery and rectification of any blocks to these needs being met.(Wikipedia: Griffin/Tyrell 2003)
How to do the exercise:
You can do this on your own, or pair up with a friend that you trust. Print off the wheel (right click to save). Go round the wheel, scoring yourself for each segment instinctively on a scale of 0 -10 where 0 = totally unsatisfied and 10 = totally satisfied.
What is your current score in each area?
Go round again, identifying areas you'd like to work on - probably the areas where you scored lowest.